the politics of being gay

so I'm not going to let my blog turn into a gay advocacy blog. lol. I just talk about it a lot because it's very prevalent in my life especially since I'm not really that far along in the "coming out" process since I'm not out to my parents yet (it's coming very soon though). anyways the politics to being gay in america are funny though because you have to pick and choose how gay to be when you're certain places.

for instance if I were out to everyone I knew including my family I would still tone it down a bit when I went to certain towns in the south where my family lived simply because I know there are still some very backwards people living in that town. I also feel like in certain public places even in not-so-small towns you have to choose your level of "outness" due to comfort issues and sometimes safety. I've known of friends getting verbally bashed because they turned down advances from individuals of the opposite sex. it's still a very sad place in america sometimes.

at any rate the point I'm make is that the politics of gay make it so that we (as homos) have to be out everywhere we go no matter what. despite the risk to our safety because I believe it is the only way we're ever going to get anything done. honestly. that's a very milk-esque statement but it's the truth. I understand a lot of folks have a lot to loose by coming out but if you do so it'll be worth a lot in the long run.

I feel like it makes bills like ENDA (employment non-discrimination act) and the repeal of DADT more real for people if they know someone close to or around them falls into the groups of people who these acts benefit.

be you at any cost. that's what I advocate.

&& I'm out.
-- lexy.