The Way We Communicate & it's Relation to Culture

any post I've made lately has been short and not very informative. haven't really felt like writing honestly. anyways it struck me yesterday as I was riding in the car back to the train station that there are fundamental differences in the black community no matter how much alike we are to caucasian folks. and that's not to say that I'm racist or don't believe in friendships between the two 'cause that's certainly NOT what I'm saying.) anyways I noticed this because I was having a discussion with someone and they told me I was getting aggressive and worked up over nothing but the issue is that I didn't see it as being aggressive at all. I saw it as stating a point. it made me realize that white people really are just a lot more sensitive than black people.

I say this mostly from my own experience but I've had both white people and black people agree on this with me as well. and to be even more clear white people are more sensitive than minorities in general (minority races that is). I say this because many times caucasians are offended by simple statements that in the black community most people would laugh at or let roll off their backs. I would use examples but for some reason I don't think it would be appropriate. I'm trying to be as candid as possible without being offensive or rude. at any rate many times I've been told I'm abrasive, rude, a dick, etc. just because I say the truth at all times. it's just what you do in the black household. there is no sugarcoating or covering up. if you look a mess, you look a mess or if you're nasty, you're nasty. no one spares your feelings and maybe some people feel this is bad for kids or whatever but it has made my skin tougher and allowed me to be able to ignore a lot of things that hurt my white friends. like if someone tells me I'm a bitch. I'm not going to get offended or mad I'm going to be like okay and?. lol. I mean it's the truth though and it's like that for most of my black friends though. the culture difference rears it head in communication differences and it's a constant struggle for me to remember that sometimes in chats with my other friends 'cause I'm just not used to sparing feelings and switching up language.

so remember next time you want to fault me for the way I communicate and being honest when you wanted to hear a lie remember that that's not how I grew up and what you consider aggressive I consider normal b/c in my household that's the only way to be heard. anyways I just wanted to give that food for thought folks.

&& I'm out.
-- lexy.