at t-giving I'll no longer be participating in the talk around the dinner table, chowing down on baked ham, dressing and cranberry sauce or taking that after dinner nap.
why you may ask. well it's simple: blatant sexism. the men in my family believe heavily in gender roles and I refuse to take a part in the laziness they exude every year at thanksgiving. every year the women slave in the kitchen the night before and day of cooking all those dishes and making sure everything is perfect. and every year the women serve the men their dinners and every year the men eat their food, pat their stomachs, yawn, get up and push away from the table to go lie on the couch and watch football or smoke or whatever. and what do the women do after they've slaved over the stove, served them, and eaten themselves? they then proceed to march back in the kitchen and wash scores of dishes. the huge pots all the food was in, the plates we ate off, and the silverware we ate with. it's utterly ridiculous and I REFUSE to participate in it anymore. if I don't eat, I don't have to take a part in that cleanup madness. don't the men think that the women are perhaps a little tired after two days of cooking? or do they just not care at all? I honestly believe it's the latter. I constantly bring it up and they either laugh or brush me off as just a rebellious teenager.
well no more will I be laughed at or brushed off.
will it suck to smell all that delicious food and know that I am not allowing myself to partake in it? yes it will but it can and will be done. these men need to learn I am nobody's servant and just like I have two hands to wash a dish, so do you. so you can shove your chauvinistic, sexist, bigoted point of view up your ass for all I care. and the women are just as guilty because they LET their men get away with it and what do they do while they let them get away with it? they complain! ha! I will no longer listen to the complaints and I will no longer watch those fellows sit idly by. I will take matters into my own hands and prove a point because at this thanksgiving I won't be eating.
besides who needs all that fattening food in one day anyway?
&& I'm out
-- Lexy
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Showing posts with label society. Show all posts
19 September 2010
18 May 2010
The Male Gender
so let's get this straight. I do think men can be good human beings, lately my points seem to be getting misconstrued and getting turned into outright male hate. this is simply not true. I like guys (as friends) especially my gay males but there are specific reasons.
I hate male chauvinism more than anything in the world and it just so happens that the majority of [straight] males are chauvinistic. otherwise I think men are capable, willing humans. generally speaking though a lot of men believe in (very) traditional gender roles, believe that men are generally better (whether consciously or subconsciously) and treat women in a degrading manner and it irks me so much. as a feminist this shouldn't be surprising. I really feel it sad that men have found themselves in such a box that they cannot break out for anything in the world. I also hate how men don't believe in anything that's not the normal or when they have very antiquated biblical beliefs (such as women staying home, etc). and true it is their choice but as I have said I hate male chauvinism and that's generally what most men are and as long as they continue to be that way you will continue to see a lot of disdain for men and all their self-entitlement behavior.
this generally does not apply to gay men however, because they too have struggled to gain acceptance and equality in society not to mention the fact that they usually identity with the feminist agenda as well. I mean it is what it is and that's all folks.
I really can be friendly to men, just don't come with that traditional shit. =]
&& I'm out.
-- Lexy
I hate male chauvinism more than anything in the world and it just so happens that the majority of [straight] males are chauvinistic. otherwise I think men are capable, willing humans. generally speaking though a lot of men believe in (very) traditional gender roles, believe that men are generally better (whether consciously or subconsciously) and treat women in a degrading manner and it irks me so much. as a feminist this shouldn't be surprising. I really feel it sad that men have found themselves in such a box that they cannot break out for anything in the world. I also hate how men don't believe in anything that's not the normal or when they have very antiquated biblical beliefs (such as women staying home, etc). and true it is their choice but as I have said I hate male chauvinism and that's generally what most men are and as long as they continue to be that way you will continue to see a lot of disdain for men and all their self-entitlement behavior.
this generally does not apply to gay men however, because they too have struggled to gain acceptance and equality in society not to mention the fact that they usually identity with the feminist agenda as well. I mean it is what it is and that's all folks.
I really can be friendly to men, just don't come with that traditional shit. =]
&& I'm out.
-- Lexy
22 April 2010
sit up straight.
elbows off the table.
chew with your mouth closed.
don't eat with your hands.
don't speak that way.
sit down.
do your work.
stop talking.
pay attention.
snap out of it.
grow up.
stop complaining.
take responsibility.
lose that weight.
suck in your fat.
do better.
try harder.
command after command.
critical voice one after another.
society's pressures weighing down on me.
my grandmothers hand bearing down on my face.
and a tear squeaks from my eye
as I try to hold it all in.
trying to prevent anyone from seeing my soft interior.
from breaking my thin outer shell.
from seeing me in my most vulnerable position.
one in which I feel simply unsafe.
open to all the pressures, stings, criticism, and hurt from all those involved in society.
nobody can fix me.
just as I think I have a grip on me,
I learn something new which keeps me from knowing all of me.
and yet I still look to so-ci-ety.
to comfort me when I'm feeling a bit inadequate.
only to walk away more hurt than before.
if only someone could help me. . .
(no idea what this is about, no direction, just wrote).
&& I'm out.
-- lexy.
elbows off the table.
chew with your mouth closed.
don't eat with your hands.
don't speak that way.
sit down.
do your work.
stop talking.
pay attention.
snap out of it.
grow up.
stop complaining.
take responsibility.
lose that weight.
suck in your fat.
do better.
try harder.
command after command.
critical voice one after another.
society's pressures weighing down on me.
my grandmothers hand bearing down on my face.
and a tear squeaks from my eye
as I try to hold it all in.
trying to prevent anyone from seeing my soft interior.
from breaking my thin outer shell.
from seeing me in my most vulnerable position.
one in which I feel simply unsafe.
open to all the pressures, stings, criticism, and hurt from all those involved in society.
nobody can fix me.
just as I think I have a grip on me,
I learn something new which keeps me from knowing all of me.
and yet I still look to so-ci-ety.
to comfort me when I'm feeling a bit inadequate.
only to walk away more hurt than before.
if only someone could help me. . .
(no idea what this is about, no direction, just wrote).
&& I'm out.
-- lexy.
16 January 2010
What's in a Phrase?
Anyone ever notice just how paradoxically we live/lead our lives? Hundreds of times we say contradictory things, that is, things that are the exact opposite of how we're feeling or thinking. I mean is it an overall human thing or is that just something I encounter on a daily basis?
Do you ever realise how easily the descent into barbarity could be? I mean I'm not saying that we don't have self-control but as animals full of ambition, greed, and the like we could all turn to barbarism given the right circumstances.
Only because it's easier, it's so much easier to be barbaric. I mean when you really think about it how many times have you said "I could ____ (fill with any verb such as kill, punch, etc) her/him" or how many times you have heard people answer "yes" to the question the question "would you rob a bank if you knew you could get away with it?"
And as A.P. students we were taught to analyze the language in which a person uses as well as the content in which they say it which leads to my title question, what is [truly] in a phrase?
I mean, I, myself want to punch the hell out this very laptop I'm working on at the moment because it's spazzing and freezing for no apparent reason but I won't because I know the long term consequences that will have on this already shitty laptop and how it will hinder me.
That coupled with phrases such as "I'm going to do a running jumping high kick if you don't complete that" leads me to believe that with the snap of a finger and a little more freedom we'd all resort to barbarism to make it through our lives and get our way.
Like just the other day I saw this guy I know almost get into a fight with another kid and when the teacher told him to be "the bigger person" his response was basically "fuck that, right now, I jus wanna whoop his ass." And I understand that 'cause I get like that sometimes to, ya know? We all get like that.
Need more proof? William Golding wrote a novel that is now considered a part of the literary canon which proved this exact point. It's name? "Lord of The Flies"
If that's not enough, about half a century prior to Golding there was Conrad. You guessed right, the novella "Heart of Darkness."
They show how society praises civilisation when in all honesty we just aren't that civilised.
I mean how easy is it to steal instead of working for something? I could walk into Wal-Mart tomorrow and with the right amount of planning and stealth steal that same iPod Touch you worked 4 months to afford within 5 minutes.
Or instead of just dealing with people I don't like I could go VT on those stupid motherf****** at my school tomorrow.
No I'm not crazy, not that damn violent, just simply making a point that we all seem to forget.
It's so hard to be civilised and show some restraint so when people do things like fight or get angry and stuff we should be a little less quick to judge and more understanding.
To further the argument look at the things we do for fun, we participate in sports like mixed martial arts or otherwise known as UFC, wrestling, football (not soccer), boxing, and the list goes on. Not only do we participate, we go to these sport events and cheer them on. We like bare fisted fighting with others and generally enjoy people suffering both emotionally AND physically.
Don't believe me? How often do you watch, listen, or read the tabloids? Just waiting to hear some juicy gossip about how dismal some celebrities life is. How often have you admitted to watching reality television just to see people more fucked up than you?
Need further proof? Look around you, observe how certain people are waiting for you to fall in dismay?
How many times have you heard the phrase, "misery loves company?"
Cliched statements are overused for a reason-- they ring true.
Many would argue that a solid founding in faith would combat all of what I'm saying however that too may not ring true because even biblical people questioned these exact same things.
Think about it, why did God flood the earth? Hmmm, that's right because it was corrupt.
Everyone falls into these habits and that's just how it is.
I am guilty of everything I'm saying here so don't take this a persecution, I'm just saying before you judge someone else for their seemingly awful make sure yours don't match.
I just hope to stress the fact that forgiveness, tolerance, and understanding is key to life and in order to practice those you have to, have to understand that restraining yourself is often easier said than done.
Just wanted to stir up a little controversy and share my thoughts with you guys because I was bored and had that on my mind.
And finally leave you with that a question "what is in a phrase?"
__________________________
Just to be clear I am FIRM believer in the justice system and when I say people should be more understanding I am in NO WAY saying that people shouldn't be punished for their crimes because they SHOULD. Just giving some fruit for thought here.
Do you ever realise how easily the descent into barbarity could be? I mean I'm not saying that we don't have self-control but as animals full of ambition, greed, and the like we could all turn to barbarism given the right circumstances.
Only because it's easier, it's so much easier to be barbaric. I mean when you really think about it how many times have you said "I could ____ (fill with any verb such as kill, punch, etc) her/him" or how many times you have heard people answer "yes" to the question the question "would you rob a bank if you knew you could get away with it?"
And as A.P. students we were taught to analyze the language in which a person uses as well as the content in which they say it which leads to my title question, what is [truly] in a phrase?
I mean, I, myself want to punch the hell out this very laptop I'm working on at the moment because it's spazzing and freezing for no apparent reason but I won't because I know the long term consequences that will have on this already shitty laptop and how it will hinder me.
That coupled with phrases such as "I'm going to do a running jumping high kick if you don't complete that" leads me to believe that with the snap of a finger and a little more freedom we'd all resort to barbarism to make it through our lives and get our way.
Like just the other day I saw this guy I know almost get into a fight with another kid and when the teacher told him to be "the bigger person" his response was basically "fuck that, right now, I jus wanna whoop his ass." And I understand that 'cause I get like that sometimes to, ya know? We all get like that.
Need more proof? William Golding wrote a novel that is now considered a part of the literary canon which proved this exact point. It's name? "Lord of The Flies"
If that's not enough, about half a century prior to Golding there was Conrad. You guessed right, the novella "Heart of Darkness."
They show how society praises civilisation when in all honesty we just aren't that civilised.
I mean how easy is it to steal instead of working for something? I could walk into Wal-Mart tomorrow and with the right amount of planning and stealth steal that same iPod Touch you worked 4 months to afford within 5 minutes.
Or instead of just dealing with people I don't like I could go VT on those stupid motherf****** at my school tomorrow.
No I'm not crazy, not that damn violent, just simply making a point that we all seem to forget.
It's so hard to be civilised and show some restraint so when people do things like fight or get angry and stuff we should be a little less quick to judge and more understanding.
To further the argument look at the things we do for fun, we participate in sports like mixed martial arts or otherwise known as UFC, wrestling, football (not soccer), boxing, and the list goes on. Not only do we participate, we go to these sport events and cheer them on. We like bare fisted fighting with others and generally enjoy people suffering both emotionally AND physically.
Don't believe me? How often do you watch, listen, or read the tabloids? Just waiting to hear some juicy gossip about how dismal some celebrities life is. How often have you admitted to watching reality television just to see people more fucked up than you?
Need further proof? Look around you, observe how certain people are waiting for you to fall in dismay?
How many times have you heard the phrase, "misery loves company?"
Cliched statements are overused for a reason-- they ring true.
Many would argue that a solid founding in faith would combat all of what I'm saying however that too may not ring true because even biblical people questioned these exact same things.
Think about it, why did God flood the earth? Hmmm, that's right because it was corrupt.
Everyone falls into these habits and that's just how it is.
I am guilty of everything I'm saying here so don't take this a persecution, I'm just saying before you judge someone else for their seemingly awful make sure yours don't match.
I just hope to stress the fact that forgiveness, tolerance, and understanding is key to life and in order to practice those you have to, have to understand that restraining yourself is often easier said than done.
Just wanted to stir up a little controversy and share my thoughts with you guys because I was bored and had that on my mind.
And finally leave you with that a question "what is in a phrase?"
__________________________
Just to be clear I am FIRM believer in the justice system and when I say people should be more understanding I am in NO WAY saying that people shouldn't be punished for their crimes because they SHOULD. Just giving some fruit for thought here.
&& I’m out.
-- lexy.
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