Why I'm No longer Eating at Thanksgiving

at t-giving I'll no longer be participating in the talk around the dinner table, chowing down on baked ham, dressing and cranberry sauce or taking that after dinner nap.

why you may ask. well it's simple: blatant sexism. the men in my family believe heavily in gender roles and I refuse to take a part in the laziness they exude every year at thanksgiving. every year the women slave in the kitchen the night before and day of cooking all those dishes and making sure everything is perfect. and every year the women serve the men their dinners and every year the men eat their food, pat their stomachs, yawn, get up and push away from the table to go lie on the couch and watch football or smoke or whatever. and what do the women do after they've slaved over the stove, served them, and eaten themselves? they then proceed to march back in the kitchen and wash scores of dishes. the huge pots all the food was in, the plates we ate off, and the silverware we ate with. it's utterly ridiculous and I REFUSE to participate in it anymore. if I don't eat, I don't have to take a part in that cleanup madness. don't the men think that the women are perhaps a little tired after two days of cooking? or do they just not care at all? I honestly believe it's the latter. I constantly bring it up and they either laugh or brush me off as just a rebellious teenager.
well no more will I be laughed at or brushed off.

will it suck to smell all that delicious food and know that I am not allowing myself to partake in it? yes it will but it can and will be done. these men need to learn I am nobody's servant and just like I have two hands to wash a dish, so do you. so you can shove your chauvinistic, sexist, bigoted point of view up your ass for all I care. and the women are just as guilty because they LET their men get away with it and what do they do while they let them get away with it? they complain! ha! I will no longer listen to the complaints and I will no longer watch those fellows sit idly by. I will take matters into my own hands and prove a point because at this thanksgiving I won't be eating.

besides who needs all that fattening food in one day anyway?

&& I'm out
-- Lexy

The Male Gender

so let's get this straight. I do think men can be good human beings, lately my points seem to be getting misconstrued and getting turned into outright male hate. this is simply not true. I like guys (as friends) especially my gay males but there are specific reasons.

I hate male chauvinism more than anything in the world and it just so happens that the majority of [straight] males are chauvinistic. otherwise I think men are capable, willing humans. generally speaking though a lot of men believe in (very) traditional gender roles, believe that men are generally better (whether consciously or subconsciously) and treat women in a degrading manner and it irks me so much. as a feminist this shouldn't be surprising. I really feel it sad that men have found themselves in such a box that they cannot break out for anything in the world. I also hate how men don't believe in anything that's not the normal or when they have very antiquated biblical beliefs (such as women staying home, etc). and true it is their choice but as I have said I hate male chauvinism and that's generally what most men are and as long as they continue to be that way you will continue to see a lot of disdain for men and all their self-entitlement behavior.

this generally does not apply to gay men however, because they too have struggled to gain acceptance and equality in society not to mention the fact that they usually identity with the feminist agenda as well. I mean it is what it is and that's all folks.

I really can be friendly to men, just don't come with that traditional shit. =]

&& I'm out.
-- Lexy